Well, this evening I assisted at the scene of a car crash. I heard a very very loud crash outside my apartment and ran across the road to find I was the first one on the scene and that the front of the hit woman’s car (Kendra) got crushed hitting a telephone pole head on, and the man who hit her (Brady) was writhing on the ground. He had serious chest pain but no wounds and though he lost consciousness once or twice I was able to wake him. Between the two of them those were the only injuries. A few other people actually stopped and helped until the authorities got there, and both Kendra and Brady were put in ambulances and taken to the hospital. They both are lucky they did not suffer more serious injuries. The man was suspected to be drunk, but he was really concerned for Kendra so at least he cared about the person he hit. And of course we know it wasn’t luck that protected them-it was God. He is amazing. Without his peace and the way he cleared my head, I wouldn’t have been able to help them. He brought helpful loving people so the victims of the crash and myself weren’t alone and responsible authorities. I was disappointed that though many people were right there when it happened that during the 2 minutes it took me to run out there nobody stopped to help a man who had collapsed and a woman who rammed into a giant pole. So, I hope that if you ever witness something like this, I hope you are the one who helps, not keeps driving… but God had a plan and all is fine for the most part. ♥ Take a moment to thank Him for protecting us every minute and for the people who work to take care of people in trouble. God is great. :)

“I like drinking coffee alone and reading alone. I like riding the bus alone and walking home alone. It gives me time to think and set my mind free. I like eating alone and listening to music alone. But when I see a mother with her child, a girl with her lover, or a friend laughing with their best friend, I realise that even though I like being alone, I don’t fancy being lonely. The sky is beautiful, but the people are sad. I just need someone who won’t run away.”

—Anonymous

the girl of stone.

Keep your distance
reach for me slowly
no sudden movements
I’m denying I’m lonely
widdle me down
warm me up
before you test my heart
or still you’ll find it’s hard
hit     hit     hit
with a hammer
does it even crack?
even just a sliver?
If it does keep on me
keep warming and testing
for only you can bomb the shell
and endure me
until my heart is soft enough
to touch
to hold
to cling to
and
then you’ll make a difference
and be in the books
for melting
the girl of stone.

“We have to allow ourselves to be loved by the people who really love us, the people who really matter. Too much of the time, we are blinded by our own pursuits of people to love us, people that don't even matter, while all that time we waste and the people who do love us have to stand on the sidewalk and watch us beg in the streets! It's time to put an end to this. It's time for us to let ourselves be loved.” 

—C. JoyBell C.

 "I tear my heart open,

 I sew myself shut

My weakness is that I care too much

I tear my heart open just to feel

And my scars remind me that the past is real."

-Papa Roach, Scars

My soul thirsts for you.

1 O God, you are my God; earnestly I seek you; my soul thirsts for you; my flesh faints for you, as in a dry and weary land where there is no water.
2 So I have looked upon you in the sanctuary, beholding your power and glory.
3 Because your steadfast love is better than life, my lips will praise you.
4 So I will bless you as long as I live; in your name I will lift up my hands.

-Psalm 63:1-4

Hi there..in case we haven't been introduced!

I’m Emilie-I’ll be 18 on July 27th. :)

I’m a wallflower, a thinker, a tea and coffee drinker, a reader, a writer, a flower presser, a music listening, people watching, laughing much too loud type, an encourager, a romantic, a person with a lot of fear, I’m loyal, I’m hopeful, I’m honest. I look for sparkling beauty in a dark paradise, I over use the word lovely, and I’m desperate for hugs. I can be made very happy by the littlest, perhaps even silliest things, and made sad almost just as easily. I’m abusively insecure of myself, easily attached, and as timid as a bunny rabbit because of the hurt people inflict. But I chase after compassion and affection from others like my life depends on it. But most of all I have hope in a beauty that never dies, because I have hope in Jesus Christ. He breaks my heart for what breaks His, and I’ve begun to consider it my spiritual blessing. It helps me love people..it helps me love Him.

{Caught Lovely Handed}

Like those security camera shots that are popular because they actually catch people doing kind or courageous things things I love to catch people doing something with a lovely hand (:


As I’m sitting in Starbucks today while my sister works the bar an older man goes over to the condiment bar, fixes up his coffee, and then takes a napkin and completely cleans off the condiment bar. As I was returning to my seat I said, “Aw you’re nice.” because I know how much it bothers my sister that people throw half & half around the condiment bar. He looks up and I can tell he isn’t one of those jolly-early-in-the-morning-folks and just says “it just shouldn’t be like this.” I smiled at him. “Yes you’re right.”

Guys it’s a small thing to clean up after yourself. Honestly. But think about it, you don’t enjoy cleaning up other peoples mess, so why would the workers at your local Starbucks? A little mess is expected, but if you spill, wipe it up. It’s lovely, and is a little thing that can help make a Baristas day better. :)

Prayer request.

Please pray for my friend Hannah. She’s suffered from chronic headaches for years but she got a migraine over a week ago that has been going strong since. This is her third trip to the hospital this week and they admitted her overnight this evening. She’s having tests done tomorrow and is hopefully going to see a neurologist Tuesday. Please pray for her strength and peace and that its nothing serious.

“There's a reason why stars can only exist in the sky—they're just rockets of light traveling through space, so it feels right to admire their form from a distance. People, solid and living and breathing together in the same world, are not meant to be surrounded by that much darkness.” 

― Katie Kacvinsky, Awaken

"Because the world is so full of death and horror, I try again and again to console my heart and pick the flowers that grow in the midst of hell.”

—Hermann Hesse, Narcissus and Goldmund

"Just close your eyes, the sun is going down; you'll be alright, no one can hurt you now..."

—Taylor Swift, "Safe and Sound"

“Just like your mother you’re unfailingly kind. A trait people never fail to undervalue, I’m afraid.”

—Albus Dumbledore

Open wound.

A strange title for a blog post. What is like an open wound? 

Many things.

my heart.
my school.
my loss of friendships.
my past eating disorder.
the lessons I'm still learning.

Let me save my heart for last..

my school.

I go to a homeschool co-op, so were only there 2-3 days a week depending on the classes you take. However it's a small community and everyone is tightly knit. Last year was a difficult year for us. We dealt with two tragedies at the end of the school year, and looking around at the community of students and mentors just half a year later you can see it is a very different place. Last years graduating class was made up of beloved friends, and their absence is felt by anyone who was here last year. Anyone returning from last year was probably at least in a small way affected by the things that happened last year. While things go on as normal, somehow it still feels different. Everyone is fighting a battle—and some still fighting a battle that started long ago. 

my loss of friendships.

This is a little harder to get into.. see my relationship with close friends at church are better than ever. They are absolutely loyal awesome and supportive friends, no question. But over the summer my friendships at school deteriorated despite the fact I kept in touch and tried to keep things going with the people I was really close with last year. And unfortunately I have no argument to recall, or anything at all to explain it. Literally the best explanation I have is that they are not interested in my friendship. Isn't that just plain sad? I would rather tell you I messed up, and destroyed my friendships and learned a terrible lesson than have to say that I did nothing but everything in my power to be the best friend I could. That hurts more. "Best friends" just suddenly decided that they weren't interested. It sucks. 

my past eating disorder.

Two years ago I dealt with bulimia (not an extreme case-thank God) and it stemmed from insecurity that is to-the-bone-deep and that took a suffocating grip on my life starting when I was probably not even 10 or 11 years old. My faith, and some extremely strict and loving friends (some of whom I was talking about above. ...Yeah.) stopped me from doing it for a long time. But because it wasn't a long lived thing, I got no results, and am in the same place I was when I started. And the people at school and issues at home are NOT helping. I'm doing better yes, because of my relationship with Christ, but I'm still way too consumed with my appearance. The little confidence I put on, is an act I have only been able to manage because God has given me the strength to be strong around others, and because of my serious stubbornness to not let the people that hurt me see that I'm not doing well. 

my heart, and the lessons I'm still learning.

So overall because of uncertainty, loss, hurt feelings, and self-loathing I'm emotionally spent. At vulnerable moments just mentioning things that strike a chord with me brings me to tears, or in some cases serious frustrated rants. I'm an emotional car wreck in some ways, and fine in others. My heart is an open wound that the slightest harsh touch brings intense pain, and from that-serious frustration. God is my Healer..but in some areas it does not seem to be in his plan to give me any diagnosis or relief just now. So I'm left praying desperate prayers and attempting complete outward self-control 24/7 of when in the public eye. 

I know God answers prayer. I know because I saw an incredible prayer answered on the mission trip I went on this summer, and it was a very personal prayer from me. The way God moved..it was beautiful and so completely GOD.

But I also know too well that prayer usually doesn't get answered in the way we want or expect. God's plan is perfect, but we couldn't possible understand most of it. I'm learning that I need to accept that, and even embrace it. He is the Divine Creater, the Alpha and Omega, the Epic, Almighty, Awesome God. He's the best friend I can ask for, and my Healer. He will not let me down, He will not leave me. He has got me, and no matter what, like it or not, he has absolute hold on my heart. Nothing can separate me from Him. 

So the biggest lesson—I have to trust Him. I have to obey Him. I have to depend on His strength and not my own. 

Why these lessons are an open wound—

because they are hard lessons, and I'm nowhere near done learning them. 

And to learn them, I know God has to peel back the deepest layers of myself and my past and resurface past pain to bring me to deal with them. He wants to heal me, but I have to accept He is my Healer, and that I can never fix myself-I need to let Him do His work the way He will. My heart is broken beyond my ability to fix it. Only He can do it.

—

So.. it's only the end of September, and this is where I am at the beginning of school. 

Can you see why it is  daunting and terrifying to think of the year ahead of me?

Things to do/remember:

Not my images.

Blessings, Emilie  ♥

Be my prayer warriors?

A close girlfriend of mine lost her daddy 4 months ago today (no I’m already crying!!must finish typing can’t see the screen darn it)) so..as you can imagine it must be one of the hardest days ever. He was (and is and FOREVER will be!!) the strongest man in his faith and during his life served the Lord above all in incredible ways! He is now with his best friend and I praise my Father for that every day!! The Lord is healing his children after this loss but their pain is unequivocally real and beyond my understanding. One thing remains-their faith was and is unyielding. Greatly attributed of course to their dad an inspiring ambassador of God!! But in understandable truth their loss is great so they are suffering true grief. Please please please! lift them up in prayer for me!! I could not ask for ANYthing in the world more desperately than this! They are a true family to me always, whether or not I have the blessing to have them as a treasure in my life forever or only for a while. This is my greatest prayer! God is performing His will. And I KNOW that it is in His will that this family be comforted by His great love because His promise remains-HE WILL NEVER LEAVE US! In this tragedy my love for God is UNMOVED! It has only grown GREATER! Crazy thought for many. But ask me again and again every day and my answer will REMAIN THE SAME! PRAISE GOD! He is my shelter. Pray that this family will feel God’s love and comfort and that he be their shelter in this time of need! I cannot thank you enough ahead of time for true prayer! 

Blessings xo emi

His Time.

"‘All mankind will fear; they will proclaim the works of God and ponder what he has done. Let righteous rejoice in the Lord and take refuge in him; let all the upright in heart praise him!’ 

—Psalm 64:9-10

It’s nice to know that wherever I am, in His arms I’m always home. It was a sweet reminder not just of His security but of why I keep following Him. I forget that He’s always listening, even when I can’t hear it. My ears were full of His promise. He is my shelter. In the sweet words of Christian music artist Bethany Dillon, He really is all I need-whether I’m surrounded by people or all alone. 

And it didn’t stop there. Several times that week someone mentioned Romans 8:28 (one of my favorite verses). I walked into a classroom to find three words from Matthew 6 on the overhead: Do not worry.

It’s so easy for me to trust people. If I were riding into a tornado with my dad driving, I could sleep through it. I know I’m safe when he’s around. I thought about how much I love being around people who make me feel safe. It’s amazing how secure I can feel inside a hug or with my hand in someone else’s. 

But the truth is, when that security isn’t there, when my dad is hundreds of miles away, I’m still safe. I can find security and peace about the decisions I make and the dreams I pursue. I don’t have to doubt God’s hand on my life when crummy things happen. I can lean into Him even more, hold on and know I really am safe in His presence. And He is always present.”

—Excerpt from the article Rainy Days and Mondays by Natalie Lloyd as found in the August 2011 edition of Susie magazine. (pgs 46&47)

Life in a nutshell.

So. The good news.

I'M DONE WITH SCHOOL!!!!

Well, with my sophomore year at least. 

& I really wish I could say something like:

"This year was amazing. I'm really proud of how far I've come. I have so many awesome memories with my friends & I'm so excited for this summer!"

But the bad news is that I can't. It's been the hardest year I've ever had, & I'm not really stoked about this summer. The only emotion I have right now is relief. Relief that I'm done with school. 

I haven't been doing well.. The readers digest version is that I've been really really stressed & recently relapsed into my old panic-induced state from a couple of years ago. This happens when something traumatic happens. & unfortunately, it did. My best friends dad died March 8, About 3 months ago. He was the most incredible man, & the best father literally in the world. He was also the most wonderful "adopted father" I could've asked for. I don't have a good relationship with my dad, & not just because my parents are divorced. But Mr.Carroll showed me what a father was & honestly, who a Godly man was. I'm so happy that I got to know him the 2 very short years I knew him. But even more than that, that my friend was so incredibly blessed growing up. She is just as remarkable as her father. I cannot even imagine the pride that Poppa C has looking down to see his family as they are. They're incredible. I love them so much. They're so loving. They seriously welcomed me into their home when I needed them most & spoiled me rotten :) I've spent so much time there it's my second home. I have a desk & there's a bed in the oldest sister Hallies room for friends I get it 1/3 of the time since we have a group of good friends that visit all the time. They showed me that family isn't confined to blood relation. It's about opening up your heart & giving others a home there.

So as you can imagine it was an unbelievably earth shattering event when their dad died suddenly, of natural causes leaving behind his wife (high school sweetheart & the most wonderful woman) three daughters Hallie Hannah & Meg and his young son Jack. Please please please keep them in your prayers constantly. This is so so real what I'm asking. For you to pray. It means something.

Now, I would rather not do this, but as it's a personal blog, I'm trying to write out my feelings & work things out in my life. I've been avoiding this because I don't think it's right that anyone should pay attention or worry about me when my friends are going through this.. that's why I've tried not to do this. But I need to talk. I need to write out my feelings & talk about my life because I'm living it & I'm no help to my friend if I carpmentalize. & I'll just been drowning myself. 

Since this happened my anxiety & depression have shown themselves again. Badly. Worse then I've ever had it. For 3 months I've been having so much trouble sleeping I was only sleeping 3-4 hours a night & hardly paying any attention to what I was eating, if I was. & I was stressing about school so much because I got behind when all this happened. The teachers know how close I was to the family & the situation so they gave me a looot of grace. But in the end I still had to fight on the last night before quarter ended to get everything in. That combined with huge home issues & an issue with a friend & I totally lost it by this week. Exam week. I made it through, just barely. But in the process I ripped apart every piece of healthy fabrication in my life trying to get it all right for everyone. 

Maybe 2 weeks after PopC died my carpmentalizing backfired big time. I was going through so much stress & anxiety & depression but not dealing with it. I had completely blocked off the connection from my emotional state to my physical state. I wasn't handling it so my body didn't know how to handle it. So it decided to express itself in protest by causing me to have a panic attack that started with severe naseau & barely being able to breathe to stumbling, so dizzy I could hardly see, to the bathroom where I proceeded to throw up for 8 hours straight doing a number on my throat, since after the first 3 hours I had nothing but acid to throw up. Your loving reading this huh? My doctor diagnosed it as a psycho systemic reaction to stress. And then I was medically induced to sleep for 48 hours (more like 36 in the end) skipping school to basically completely restart my system. Plus, I was operating under exhaustion. Also, she prescribed me a second anxiety control add-on med to accompany my daily lexapro. Apparently, lexapro was lonely, so klonopin wanted to keep it company. It helps. But unfortunately meds can't fix your system if you continue with the same life-cycle. I did, & at several points in the past two months did I relapse, but was able to control the physical aspects with the meds. so I was able to handle it under the radar. 

So. Here I am. I lived through the trauma, exam week, hell at home, & school is over & so I'm catching up on months of sleep, & trying to work out a hell of a lot of issues.

Now, my goals for this week include:

• get back on a healthy sleeping schedule
• get back on a healthy (&existent) diet
• get back on a healthy & organized exercise routine
• get back on an everyday scheduled time with God & I (that I KEEP)
• and get back on a regular social routine including church & time for my friends 

-and required for preparing for school next year, SATs, & college-

• sign up for an SAT prep class
• get tutoring for math (specifically geometry since I didn't end this semester well)

So there you have it. My life in a nutshell. Interesting, no? No..

Oh how messed up I am. Jesus take the wheeeeeeel.

I say love forever & always. And never half-heartedly. Not when there's someone out there who loves you twice as much.

There really isn’t anything like watching as the people who screwed you over disappear into oblivion as you rise higher and higher-as you come to realize you can do so much better. You start soaring and soon, those people who tore you apart, are so small it’s like taking off in an airplane and thinking curiously “How small the world is!” from your First Class seat of life.

"There is nothing I would not do for those who are really my friends. I have no notion of loving people by halves, it is not my nature."

—Jane Austen, Northanger Abbey.